Friendship Clarity Notes
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Safe, But Not Always – Part Two
So, there are seasons when people temporarily shift from who they normally are. It might be grief, pressure, heartbreak, insecurity or an internal battle they have not fully processed. In those moments, the version of them you meet is coloured by what they are navigating. I am learning that discernment in friendship is not only…
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Safe, But Not Always – Part One
There is a phrase we use so often in friendship. “You are my safe space.”It sounds beautiful and I use it too, but lately I have been thinking about the concept of a “safe space.” It suddenly hit me that we are actually not always safe. Not because we are “bad people”, but because we are…
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The Expectations We Never Said Out Loud
Hey friend, There was a time I considered someone a close friend, and I expected her to show up for me in a particular way. I never said it out loud. I just assumed she would know. When she did not respond the way I imagined, it genuinely hurt me. But after thinking about it…
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Learning People Again
Hey friend, Earlier this year, I went through a season of change. I was becoming more self-aware, recreating my patterns, seeing life differently, and choosing myself in new ways. It was a unique period, and I realise now that it also created a bit of friction in some friendships. I, too, have seen new sides…
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How Do You Show Up in Friendship?
Hey friend, Yesterday morning, I was chatting with my friend who is so natural at gifting. She loves choosing gifts and giving people thoughtful things. She genuinely enjoys it. Meanwhile, I am still thinking about how stressful the whole thing is for me. I hardly ever know what to choose, and the entire process feels…
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Have your friends ever disappointed you?
Hey friend, At a virtual gathering I spoke at last week, someone asked how to rebuild trust without fear of disappointment I understand this fear but the truth is, it is almost impossible to do life without some form of disappointment, friendships included. We are all human, and things will not always go the way…
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Are you the bad friend?
During a previous no be beans session, someone asked a question that made the room go quiet and it made me pause too. I seriously had to admit that I have not always been the best version of myself in friendship. Sometimes I got busy. Sometimes defensive. Sometimes deep in my feelings, and other times……
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What The Words Might Be Saying
A few months ago, I went to visit a friend who was with their friend. As I was leaving, I said something like, “I’ll let you know when next I’m free so we can hang out.” The other friend ‘jokingly’ said, “You that you are jobless!” I laughed it off, but the whole situation wouldn’t…
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Do we really know our friends?
Hey friend, So, two days in a row, while we were playing The Friendship Deck, I found out new things about friends I have known for over twenty years. It caught me off guard, not in a bad way, but in a “wow, I had no idea” kind of way. It made me realise how easy…